Why did Arizona Cheat?

I want to think aloud. So everything I write down now, please note that I am just thinking aloud.

What happened to Arizona?  Why did she cheat on Callie?  Does she not love Callie anymore?

Was she not happy? Why did they get married in the first place? Let's think and write down our thoughts.

Kids

True. She didn’t want to have kids. But when Gary Clark made his explosive presence felt at SGMW, this changed. The fear of the fleetingness of life brought them to share this dream.

When she went to Africa, Callie needed a palate cleanser and got pregnant.  I would have though they’d have kids via adoption or surrogacy, but a baby by Mark was just not too palatable, Mark is Callie’s sex buddy turned bestie. If I were Arizona, I’d be really jealous. It’s good she was mature about it. When Callie was hurt in the car crash. It made Arizona accept the situation better.

This is not my life. This is not my dream.

She said it on that living room sofa, she drinking wine, and the pregnant Callie drinking a glass of milk. Callie got it all. She had to adjust to all that happened in Callie’s life and take all that came with Callie. A child by Mark, Mark who’ll be there every step of the way from birth till adulthood of Sofia, it was going to be a three-way relationship.  She loved  Callie so much, and she left Africa for her, but this was one of the most bitter pills she had to swallow, cause if u love a person, you accept everything that she is and everything she comes with.

It was a take it or leave it situation and Arizona accepted everything because she loved Callie. But we don’t really know if she was happy. 

Marriage

Ever since Callie got pregnant with Mark’s baby, Arizona was jealous. She just did not dwell on it a lot, because of her sunshiny personality.  Certain situations though, pushed  this jealousy to the foreground, mainly during the baby shower, where she slowly realized Mark and Callie are much more compatible.

That Mark gets Callie better: the Catholic Callie, the Callie who liked onesie decorating with glitter pens, among others.

  

So on the road to the B&B, when Mark  sends text messages to Callie, Arizona’s jealousy came to a head. Here they were, about to spend some alone time together and Mark was still there, invading their privacy.  I wonder if Arizona really wanted them to get married for the reason of having a true commitment, or only because she was driven by jealousy and wanted to safeguard her position in Callie’s life, and have the upper hand against Mark.

Was that marriage proposal just an attempt  at an ego boost? And Callie, when asked by Arizona , was not even eager at first about the marriage. Short of saying she thought it was preposterous, then just got slowly convinced.

Callie said she wants that, the rings, etc., and  before she could answer, the truck came out of nowhere. And then they all sang the day away.

After that tragedy, and seeing Arizona never left her side, Callie said yes.

Then came the issue of the leg. She blamed Callie for cutting off her leg, when Callie just had it done to save her life. I hope the writers get more creative when thinking of conflict story lines for them. The writers always come up with very good drama . They could work wonders out of boring technical situations, I hope they can do even better than this. Something more realistic and acceptable for Callie and Arizona.

All through Season 9, it was up and down and up and down for Calzona:

First Arizona said Callie was "outstanding" (9x02). 

Then she was so mad at Callie blaming her for cutting off her leg. 

Then she was  short with Callie most of the time while adjusting to one leg.

Then she was okay with Callie, who was so patient and supportive of her. 

Then she asked Callie not to run when Callie made a joke to Bailey to be a runaway bride. 

Then she was irritable with Callie when Callie led the Grey Sloan buyout initiative. 

Then she was guilty that she wasn’t able to have sex with Callie so they finally did. 

Then she was supportive of Callie in her TED speech.

Then she met Whoren and Boom.

Up and down, erratic behavior in Season 9. I don’t want to think that the writers have become random with their stories that continuity of thought and situation have been sacrificed.

Maybe this is  how PTSD is. Inconsistent erratic behavior on Arizona’s part.  We the viewers were led into this roller coaster of emotions of Arizona. Callie was consistent all the way.

What  led to Arizona’s inconsistency? Did she love Callie? Was she happy? She said it was not her dream. But she was sucked into it because of the many tragedies that came their way, leading both of them to make rushed decisions.

Were they really meant to be? Or are we all just too excited to have the most popular  lesbian couple on primetime tv and could not care less whether the story thread that brought them together and apart is disjointed? Will  Grey's Anatomy finally correct the wrongs, tie up the loose ends  of the Calzona Story and come up with a more cohesive plot line? I hope so.

I hope they give us what we deserve. A plausible story of Arizona’s journey of truth, of realizations, self discovery. If she made a mistake, it’s all right. The deed has been done. But we need to know what led her to do this.

If it was PTSD, I hope they explain it well. But I really hope that they do not justify the cheating just from PTSD. It is acceptable that PTSD is a major contributing  factor but it cannot totally justify the cheating.

We look forward to how the writers will explain all this.  Up to now, we seriously question Arizona’s actions, when she was supposed to be the Good Man in a Storm with a good moral compass, and whom we all look up to.

Also, this is why we understand Callie, who did not go to couple’s therapy with Arizona. Betrayal is a very serious, painful thing, and it is a big question if they will be able to ever get back together after  this.

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